This post deals with episodes 9 and 10 of Big, and all the things leading up to them. You have been warned.
|(Gong Yoo can stare at me like that any day.)|
|Matching blue and white stripes=matching feelings. :)|
I finally felt that the lost loves of creepy uncle and crazy VP had a point in this episode—they illustrate the importance of timing, and not making love wait. I think this is the main issue with Yoon Jae. Whatever his feelings were toward Da Ran, he always kept her waiting. So many times he didn't even show up. I think his love was that way, too. Even if it was sincere, it never showed up for Da Ran. Now that he has no control over her waiting for him, Kyung Joon has become the person she waits for, but she never has to wait too long. He rushes to her side, no matter what (except when he's pouting, and needs some prompting by Rabbit and Teddy Bear. I just want to say here that I love love love that Kyung Jae is getting relationship lessons from 6 year-olds, and I love the knowing looks Teddy Bear gives him when he proves his points.) And he's excited to see her. And she has the confidence that he will always come to her.
But this episode also deals with the burdens of past choices on our lives. This is especially true with Yoon Jae's aloof father and Evil Mother, who is majorly having to come to terms with her past. The subs on Viki said that she let her husband have the baby with the woman he loved but we know that genetically, Kyung Joon is her son. So even though it was her biological child, it was her husband's mistress who carried it, which I think would explain (although it doesn't justify, at all) her coldness toward Kyung Joon. He's still her son, and was conceived for her purposes—not out of love, not for his own sake, but for the sake of an older brother. In this instance, it was very calculated. I'm not going to delve into the ethics or morality of savior siblings, because I don't think most people can truly understand (I know I don't entirely get it). But for Evil Mother, leaving Kyung Joon to his own fate, not caring what happened to him after he saved Yoon Jae, is now a huge burden. I think for her it's mostly how it will affect Yoon Jae and her relationship with him.
The professor's statement that salvation requires both love and sacrifice is so important. Evil Mother didn't love Kyung Joon, and Yoon Jae hasn't had the opportunity to love his younger brother, despite his deep sense of gratitude. Kyung Joon's sacrifice was not given out of love, but taken from him, and that has to be an important distinction for this story.
|Well put, professor dude.|
The important thing they now need to learn is to share their burdens, because that's what will make all the pain and suffering bearable. That's what will bring them through all this hardship. And that's what love is.